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Creating a Truly Unforgettable Wedding

Article by Nancy Jeffries-Dwyer for the Stowe Reporter

wedding photo of a couple in vermont during a Columbus Day wedding

 

This is truly an exciting time in your life. You immediately run out and purchase five or six glossy wedding magazines and spend endless hours searching online wedding sites, Pinterest pages, and reading wedding blogs for “inspiration”. Suddenly, at every turn you notice everything that even whispers “wedding”. After a few weeks of this you begin thinking, “I am becoming obsessed with thoughts of creating the perfect wedding.” Now the initial glow of your engagement is turning into an overwhelming sense of panic! “ How will I pull this all together?” What to do?My name is Nancy Jeffries-Dwyer, and I am the owner of NJOY Event Planning. Permit me to share my passion for planning unforgettable fetes, to help rekindle your sense of joy in planning your wedding, and also share some critical planning secrets to help you maintain your sanity, and put you on the road to success!
My name is Nancy Jeffries-Dwyer, and I am the owner of NJOY Event Planning. Permit me to share my passion for planning unforgettable fetes, to help rekindle your sense of joy in planning your wedding, and also share some critical planning secrets to help you maintain your sanity, and put you on the road to success!First, take a deep breath, close your eyes, and remember weddings that you have attended which were truly outstanding. What was it about those events that made them truly unforgettable? Jot down the key elements that stood out – the venue and setting, the décor, the cuisine, the “feel” – was it relaxed, intimate, exquisite, colorful, playful and fun, campy, rustic and chic? Was it the band, the music and the dancing that you recall? Or the priceless moments that you recognized when the photographer captured the families interacting with one another that moved you? Use adjectives that describe what was memorable for you.

First, take a deep breath, close your eyes, and remember weddings that you have attended which were truly outstanding. What was it about those events that made them truly unforgettable? Jot down the key elements that stood out – the venue and setting, the décor, the cuisine, the “feel” – was it relaxed, intimate, exquisite, colorful, playful and fun, campy, rustic and chic? Was it the band, the music and the dancing that you recall? Or the priceless moments thNJOY Event Planningat you recognized when the photographer captured the families interacting with one another that moved you? Use adjectives that describe what was memorable for you.This simple exercise should bring you to the starting place where you begin the planning process. Fast forward to Step One.

This simple exercise should bring you to the starting place where you begin the planning process. Fast forward to Step One.

PRIORITIZE: Identify the three most important elements that will make your event unforgettable for the two of you, and your guests. Ask your partner to participate to create a unified direction moving forward. Understand from the beginning if you have a similar vision in order to avoid stress down the road.

VISUALIZE: Once the key elements are clear to both of you, focus on the “where, when, who, and how” questions. Your choices are vast – a destination wedding in a fabulous vacation area (like Vermont!) in the spring, summer, fall, or winter? A backyard wedding in your home town? Is your dream vision on a beach, in a barn, or in an elaborate ballroom in an ultra chic, luxurious Inn? How many guests would you ideally want to share this experience? Think of these decisions as if you are weighing them on a scale – if one decision drives the budget upwards, does an alternative direct it downwards?

DISCUSS YOUR IDEAS: It might be time to bring in your families at this time. This is a good jumping off point to approach one of the other key elements . . .

THE BUDGET: This process should bring you back down from the clouds if your visualizations took you into the land of unattainable fantasies. Memorable weddings are not necessarily built with unlimited budgets. Be realistic! Major costs are easy to account for, but the hidden costs can sneak up on you and totally throw the cost of your wedding over the deep end. Once your vision is in place, ask your families how they can support your special day, so that everyone can be involved and be proud of the results.

GETTING STARTED: Your engagement will likely be split into two main bursts of activity – the initial research and booking of your most important vendors and the date of your event near the start, and the coordinating of everything during the middle, and right near the end. The middle is usually full of DIY projects (if you’re that way inclined) and making decisions on things like your dress, reception décor, cakes and flowers. If you’re having a short engagement then these will probably all be smooshed together, but that’s perfectly fine! It is really important to book your vendors as early in your engagement as possible, especially if you have people you really want to work with. Many of the most popular vendors will get booked up months, or sometimes even years, in advance! So if you have your heart set on something, don’t delay in sending that inquiry.

ANTICIPATE: This point cannot be emphasized enough. The best of plans can go astray if you don’t prepare for the unexpected. If you dream of an outdoor event, then prepare for inclement weather. This can affect everything from the enjoyment of your event, to whether or not your guests can even get there.

STAY FOCUSED: Weddings today have become bigger than life events, as evidenced with the bevy of televised wedding productions, and an ever-growing number of wedding websites, to entice you. It is easy to be distracted with all of this available information to digest. Go back to your plan, your vision, and your budget. A good wedding planner can be very helpful to you at this point, if you are struggling.

DATE NIGHT: Remember that you are planning for a marriage and not just a “party”. Take time each week to go out and have fun with your partner, and make it a rule NOT to talk about the wedding. This simple exercise has saved many a wedding disaster from occurring. The decisions that you are making as a couple can be the solid ground for building a good marriage based on the ability to listen and compromise, or it can create a breeding ground for discourse. Love one another, and walk down that aisle with a sparkle in your eyes and a smile on your faces!

Your wedding is just that – it’s YOURS to own, and to manage. Make it unique, put your personal stamp on it. This will most likely be the biggest party that you will ever host together. When you look back on it years from now you will remember that the special efforts that helped shape a truly memorable event for the two of you, were also cherished memories for everyone there.

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